I had a dream last night.It was about one of my ex-boyfriends....Actually about my first boyfriend (and that's a really strange thing because I never think about him, I always said that even if he was my first boyfriend I didn't really care about him...I mean..I was 14 back then, now I'm 20...He's supposed to be ancient history...but..whatever, I'll talk about this subject another time)
What I wanna say is that dreaming about him made me think about bad guys.Yes, if you wonder he was a bad guy.If I think about it for a second I realize most of the guys I liked were famous for being bad boys.So, probablly that means I have a thing for bad guys.Probably.I admit it.But maybe you wonder what makes a girl(what makes me) fall for a...jerk( but you might consider it that a bad guy is noy always a jerk)
Actually there are many types of bad guys.The type I'm talking about are those guys that do a lot of stupid things ...mostly for fun, and for that people tag them as being bad.And I'm also talking about guys that play a lot with girls and never get serious about any....
The main reason why I like bad one is because...despite of their bad character, they treat me better then I would've ever imagined...I mean no matter what they did in the past, no matter how they treated other girls, no matter how they behave with other, they never said to me bad,dirty word, they never hit me...they were so respectful that i was actually shocked...And they makes me feel special when I know I'm the only one they are nice with, I'm the one they trust enought to be themselves around me
Why are they so nice to me when they are actually supposed to be bad? Maybe it's because I was always the good girl type.Everytime I asked a guy about this he said something like:"Seriously?Look at you, how could anyone be mean with you, hit you, hurt you on purpouse?you're like an angel" Well, thank you guys for saying that.It's helpful for my self-esteem
Well I agree with that....I mean, in my opinion you get what you deserve... if a guy doesn't treat you right it's your fault.
I don't think bad guys were born bad...I think a guy becomes bad because he was hurt a lot in the past.And the bad attitude it's just a shield to protect him for being hurt again.So every bad guy is actually a good one deep inside.He just needs the right girl, with whom he can let his guard down, to whom he can open up... a girl that won't judge him and will see not the bad, but the good in him.
People always dissaproved me every time i had a crush on a bad guy.They said it wasn't good enough for me, i deserve more blah blah blah....But I had my reasons Behind their "bad" mask i always saw a sparkle of kindness...
There are many things to apreciate about a bad guy, many things you can learn from him.
First,I think they are really strong persons mentally. The've been through a lot and they managed somehow to survive.
Then, I admire them for their courage.They are not afraid to be themselves,to say what they think, to do whatever they like.
Another thing about bad guys is that a girl feels more protected with them, because nothing scares them, so they would fight for her, they won't allow anyone to treat her bad
Bad guys are interesting, they do interesting things. They have strayed from the straight-and-narrow and have developed their own code of conduct. .
Bad guys are confident and self assured.
Plus bad guys are a challenge. We all love a challenge, and women may love a challenge even more than the boys. If something is a challenge, the end results must surely be worthwhile, right?
But... Hey, guys!Don't get me wrong. You don't have to be a bad boy to get girls. You just have to bring bad boy attitude. The four ways to do this are:
• Make her feel safe
• Play on her wild side
Being successful with babes takes the kind of attitude that isn't afraid of risks. If you're always concerned about being politically correct, perfectly polite, and the kind of gentleman she'd introduce to her folks, you'll see girls slip through your fingers time and time again. Be a little outrageous. Flirt with her shamelessly. Let her know that you find her sexually attractive. Drop hints that will intrigue her. Say something risqu , and grin when her mouth drops. They may act shocked, even offended, but believe me: they LOVE it when you tease.
• Don't let anyone walk over you
• Develop atittude
You can read more about that here:
Good girls are more likely to fall for bad guys(just like bad guys fall for good girls.) :
"A `good girl' is a woman who has followed the rules all of her life; she's been taught to go along with the status quo of what everyone else thinks she should do, be and want," says Dr. Stovall. "These women have not had an opportunity to be who they are, so they are attracted to the men who rebel against the rules, and they live vicariously through them." women who have spent their entire lives pleasing others are more likely to be attracted to "bad guys."
"Being a `good girl' means you've had to forego a lot of your natural instincts, all in the interest of being good," says Dr. Paster. "Therefore, [with a `bad boy'] you can get the pleasure and excitement with someone who hasn't foregone his instincts, all while [maintaining] your image of being good."
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